Earlier this week, my younger sister Anne broke off her engagement to a wonderful man called Tam. The invitations had been mailed, the reception center booked, the dress fitted and the ring adorned her hand. Needless to say it has been a traumatic and teary week for Anne and Tam and for all of us who love them.
Tam is a wonderful guy – generous, loyal, thoughtful, fun, caring — and our family was truly delighted about welcoming him into our noisy ranks (I’m one of seven!). We understood why Anne loved him. We all loved him! However, the issue wasn’t that he wasn’t a really great guy, rather it was simply that somewhere inside Anne there was a nagging doubt about whether she really wanted to commit to spending her life with him. It wasn’t about “good enough” or “not good enough” and it isn’t about who was right or wrong. In the end, it simply wasn’t to be.
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