Are you living today by default or design?

by | Aug 24, 2011

Yesterday afternoon just after I’d sat down to begin writing this newsletter, I heard a rumble. My initial thought was that there must besomeone (a really BIG someone) walking on the floor above me. But then, as the rumble continued and the entire house began to shake I realized I was experiencing some sort of earth tremor. It was only afterward, when my brother Steve in Australia texted me to check I was okay (“Yeah, why do you ask bro?”), that I turned on the TV to discover I’d felt the distant tremors of a 5.8 earthquake.

And now I learn that a Hurricane, or at least the effects of one, is heading my way this weekend. Ahhhh… there’s no force greater than Mother Nature.

Except, of course, the force of the human spirit. Particularly when it’s focused on achieving something that brings purpose and meaning to life. Which brings me around to what I wanted to write about when I sat down yesterday (before earth quakes and text messages distracted me).

There’s a wonderful old saying that goes: “If you don’t know where you are heading, any old road will take you.” Likewise, if you aren’t sure about where you want to go, it’s highly possible that you will not like where you end up.

Too often we get so caught up in the busy-ness of living, that we don’t take time to ask ourselves whether the direction we are traveling in taking us somewhere we truly want to go – somewhere that inspires us, bringing meaning to our days and purpose to our lives. Regardless of where you are in your life right now, I encourage you to take some time to think about what you really want for yourself in life – in your career or business, your marriage, family, health and fitness, finances etc. Visualize what your “ideal future” would look like 3 years from now, 5 years from now… 15 years from now. What lights you up? What makes you feel like you are living the life you were born to live?

Of course there are many factors that we have no control over (earthquakes and hurricanes are first to mind!) But the most important factors we do. And those who succeed in creating fulfilling lives, are those who are very thoughtful about what matters most to them and conscious of the power they have to choose their response to whatever circumstance they find themselves in. They are purposeful in the actions they take, vigilant of the emotions that can derail them, and intentional about live their life by design rather than by default.

As September inches closer (and I eagerly countdown the days until my kids return to school), I invite you to cast your mind ahead to the end of this year, think about the top three things you’d really like to accomplish, pursue or change in the intervening months. Perhaps you’d like to get fitter or polish up your resume. Perhaps register for an adult ed class to learn a new skill or perhaps just take more time out of your week to be still, and get present to the people and gifts in your life today. Whatever it is, making time to prepare and plan how you will achieve it will be time well spent. To quote Abraham Lincoln: “If I had 6 hours to cut down a tree, I’d spend 4 sharpening my axe.”

Albert Camus once said that our life is the lump sum of our choices. I hope that as you move forward in the week ahead, the choices you make will honor what is most important to you and take you further in the direction of your greatest dreams and aspirations.

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8 Comments

  1. Tomas, Brussels

    This is so important to think about and to dedicate time to. I have never looked back and regreted not taking action toward a goal. But I can look back and regret not having been more decisive in choosing my goals. Thank you for making me think about this again and prompting me to take a moment to clarify the life I want to be living 15 years from now.

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  2. Rowena, Naples FL

    Ten years from now I want to have enough money saved up that I can stop working 60 hrs a week but continue to work on my business as much, or as little as I want. I want to be fit and healthy, enjoy great relationsihps with my children, take fun holidays and be savoring life's great indulgences. I know its all possible. I just have to work my plan! Thanks for the inspiration to do so Margie.

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  3. Cindy, Sterling VA

    Thanks for the prompt. Sometimes I need just that. So three things I want to do before the year is through are to
    a) Convert my business over to Mac! (and learn how to use it)
    b) Plan 20th Wedding Anniversary celebration and vacation
    c) Get my daughter as college ready as possible.
    Keep up the great work Margie.

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