I was recently interviewed for an article in a magazine via email. I know my answers will be edited down to fit their word count but thought you might enjoy reading through this short Q&A about courage in an increasingly time-poor world. How do you define courage? Courage is choosing to make ourselves vulnerable to what we fear […]
As the world mourns the passing of Nelson Mandela and honors the extraordinary legacy of his extraordinary life, the message that it shared - of courage, resilience, forgiveness and commitment to a cause bigger than oneself - has no less relevance for each of us today than it had during the height of the apartheid era.
While research has found that women have an edge over men when it comes to expressing their emotions and perceiving the emotions in those around them, men are better at compartmentalizing emotions so an upset in one area doesn’t spill over into other areas. However, regardless of your gender or how well you have managed your emotions in the past, the good news is that you are never too old (or too young) to build your emotional intelligence. In fact, it’s one of the few things that actually improves with age!
We live in an era of entitlement, blame and finger pointing. Too few people are willing to take responsibility for the state of their lives, too many are happy to lay it at the feet of others. Only when you own your power to affect change, can you ever create the life you truly want. It begins by taking a good hard look in the mirror and owning how your choices have shaped your reality.
The quality of our relationships is built on the quality of the conversations we have in them. Too often though we play safe and avoid the possibility of an awkward conversation -- too raw, too difficult, too sensitive, too risky, too uncomfortable, too much effort. As a result we stick with a status quo we aren’t really happy about. Sometimes for decades. And all because we’re afraid. But at what cost? Here are 7 keys to speaking up about the issues that are weighing you down and holding you back.
Putting off changes and playing it safe doesn't make you more secure, it makes you less so. Every worthwhile endeavour involves taking a plunge into an unknown and uncertain future. There is no guarantee that a change you will make or a chance you will take will result in the outcome that you want. Anyone who tells you otherwise is either delusional or lying. But one thing is guaranteed: not making changes, not taking chances and sticking with the status quo is not going to make you happier in the long term. More likely it will only make you less happy, and more frustrated or resentful, than you are right now.
Marriage doesn't have to be all hard work, but unless you are committed to working at your marriage, it's unlikely to last the long haul (or at least be one you enjoy being in.) As I reflect on the last twenty years of married life, here are seven ways to help keep love alive and your marriage strong.
Holding a grudge can be self-satisfying, but it always hurts us far more than the person we're holding it against. At risk of sounding like a preacher, you must learnt to forgive. Doing so isn't about them; it's about you. It's about deciding that you no longer want to carry negative emotions from an event in your past forward in to your future. You'll take the learning, but you'll leave the resentment behind.
“I got three messages," said Diana Nyad as she crawled out of the water in Key West after her epic swim from Cuba. "One is, we should never give up. Two is, you’re never too old to chase your dreams. Three is, it looks like a solitary sport, but it’s a team." It's a message that holds wisdom for us all, particularly those of us who often think we're too old from pursuing dreams that seem audaciously big.
The old adage “It’s not what you know, but who you know” no longer holds true. Nowadays, it’s not what you know, nor who you know – it’s who knows what you know.” Tooting your horn is about strategically building your ‘personal brand’ to ensure that those who can help you accomplish more in your career, know not just who you are, but the value you have (and want) to contribute. Failing to toot your horn - with the right people, in the right way, and at the right time - doesn’t serve anyone.